Jacob Szalapski Doesn’t Know When to Quit

Two years ago, I banned a Facebook user named Jacob Szalapski from a group I admin after he violated a stated group rule.

He responded by messaging at least a dozen of my Facebook friends to accuse me of being a “prissy suburban SUV driving soccer mom, and a sympathizer and spy for Autism Speaks.” The details of that saga, including screenshots of the messages Jacob sent me and others, are here.

I never responded to Jacob directly. Instead, I blocked him on Facebook. He never responded to the blog post itself. Other people did, though, and Jacob took umbrage to one particular comment.

Jacob took a lot of umbrage to one particular comment.

Today, Jacob Szalapski left the following messages on this blog’s Facebook page:

They/it reads:

Hi, Dani. I had trouble finding your mutual friends to add them with my other accounts to bypass your message requests folder to message you, plus my other accounts were taken down, but now I can message you at this page.

…Repeated 12 times, split between two separate messages.

The end of the second message reads:

Although, remove her lying comment from your blog, if you want to avoid more spam.

Since my 2016 blog post and the comment to which Jacob refers, I’ve been blocking and ignoring him on the premise that most Internet trolls go away when they get bored.

Because Jacob is not going away, however, I’ve decided to give him what he wants. I’m going to publish every single response he has left to the comment in question, right here. And I’m going to let you, readers, make your own decision about his behavior.

The Comment That Started It All

The comment Jacob Szalapski wants me to remove from the blog post linked above is this one:

It reads:

Alexandra marie

April 1, 2016 at 12:16 am

i hope jacob get some serious help. he stalked me on facebook for months and insisted we be married for some kind of all Aspergers family thing. i myself am on the spectrum and he made account after account to pursue me as i blocked him. i googled his name today to see what had become of him. he still contacts my friends as they didnt block him but this is someone who wants to use our community to full a sick ego.

…And Jacob’s First Response

Here’s Jacob Szalapski’s first comment in response to Alexandra Marie’s comment, left April 6, 2016.

Because the original is a text wall, I added paragraph breaks between major ideas for easier reading below.

The first message reads:

Jacob Szalapski

Apr 6, 2016

on BREAKING NEWS: Autistic….  PENDING

That is a lie. I did not stalk her on Facebook. She sent me a friend request, I accepted it, she chatted and I replied. She blocked me on Facebook. The next day, I saw that she had sent a friend request to my other Facebook account (business account), and I accepted her friend request on my second Facebook account, and messaged her apologizing for what could have caused her to block me (she had not told me beforehand to not message her). So: Accepting her friend request that she sent on my second account, and then messaging her during a Facebook friendship that SHE requested – is not stalking. She then blocked my second account too. OKAY THEN.

Anyhow, I never said anything about being married or in a relationship, or starting a family. I just said from my second Facebook accountthat blocking someone rather than just unfriending is often excessive, because people unfriend people who they want nothing to do with because people were not Facebook friends before they met…but blocking is saying that you think that someone is even WORSE than someone who you never met because they were not BLOCKED before you met them.

Anyhow, I think it is shameful that this Alex Marie was and is pretending to have autism/Aspergers and trying to make a mockery of us. Clearly she does not have autism. Women with Aspergers do not get uncomfortable around men, and are more certainly not prissy and catty and stuck-up by thinking that everyone who they do not like is creepy just because they do not like them. Hey, I rejected some women who messaged me on OK Cupid, but I do not think that any of them are creepy. This Alex Marie clearly does not have Aspergers, because she does not have the same personality as me and she does not think like me. Either she is misdiagnosed or she needs to stop faking for all this trendiness and “white knighting” bullshit. And I never said anything about marriage or anything like that.

As for contacting her friends, I SENT THEM FRIEND REQUESTS THAT THEY ACCEPTED AND I DID NOT THEM OTHER THAN TO REPLY TO THEIR MESSAGES. And the only reason why I sent them friend requests was because they were recommended by Facebook as “people you may know” as a result of mutual friends.

The Second Message

Here’s Jacob’s second comment.

This one (again, with paragraph breaks added by me) reads as follows:

Jacob Szalapski

Apr 7, 2016

on BREAKING NEWS: Autistc… PENDING

I never stalked her. She sent me a friend request, I accepted her friend request, and she started a chat with me. I rambled with a few long chat entries because I was shy and did not know what to say, so because she was not interested, she blocked me (and did not tell me at that time to not contact her). OKAY THEN.

A few hours later, I saw that she had sent me a friend request to my second account (my business account), and she had never cancelled the friend request. I accepted her friend request, and sent her a message from this second account, during a Facebook friendship that she had requested, apologizing for what could have caused her to block me. OKAY THEN. Accepting someone’s friend request that they sent to a second account, and messaging them during the Facebook friendship that that person requested is not stalking.

I never said anything about relationship, marriage, or a family, and this Alex Marie clearly does not have Aspergers/autism, because autistic people have the same personality as me and think like me, and this Alex Marie is too prissy and catty to have Aspergers. Shame on her for pretending to have Aspergers and making a mockery of us.

I sent friend requests to her friends, who had been recommended to me by Facebook as people who I may know, and most of herfriends accepted the friend requests; and I did not message or chat with any of her friends unless I was replying to messages or chats that they sent me. Even so, if she wants nothing to do with me, we were not FB friends before, but that does not mean that we were blocked before we met. There is a difference between unfriending and blocking, and just because you do not like someone does not automatically mean that they are creepy.

This Alex Marie is clearly prissy and catty, faking her Aspergers, is overreacting, and is delusional.

The Third Message

After the two messages above, which I never allowed out of the moderation queue, I heard nothing from Jacob Szalapski for several months. Then, Jacob began a pattern of leaving an innocuous comment from a different IP address, which I would approve, and then following with a variation on the above comments.

Here’s the first of that particular series:

It reads:

NYXC

Oct 6, 2016

on BREAKING NEWS: Autistic….  PENDING

I did not stalk her. I accepted her friend request, we chatted she blocked me, the next morning I accepted a friend request she sent to my second account and messaged her from that account apologizing for what could have caused her to block me. She blocked me again. I also merely sent friend requests to her friends, who were suggested to me by FB, and many of them accepted my friend requests. I also said nothing about marriage or family.

The Fourth Message

When I deleted the message above and blocked the IP from which it was sent, Jacob Szalapski tried again, with a different username and from a different IP address. Again, he left an innocuous comment first, in order to get the username/IP approved for commenting before leaving this comment:

This comment reads:

UpstateNewYorker

Oct 25, 2016

on BREAKING NEWS: Autistic…. PENDING

I never stalked her. She sent me a friend request, I accepted it, we chatted, she blocked me (and did not tell me to not contact her), and the next morning I saw that she had sent me a friend request on my second FB account. I accepted her friend request, and then sent her a chat – during the FB friendship that she had requested – apologizing for what could have caused her to block me. She blocked me again. I also only sent friend requests to her friends (who had been suggested to me by FB), and many of them accepted the friend requests. I also never said anything about marriage, kids, or family.

The Fifth Message

Immediately after the message above, Jacob Szalapski also left this message on my blog post:

Which reads:

UpstateNewYorker

Oct 25, 2016

on BREAKING NEWS: Autistic….  PENDING

Jacob Szalapski here. I never stalked that Alex Marie. She sent me a friend request on my second account, and I then accepted her friend request on that second account after she had blocked me, and then I messaged her – during the FB friendship that she had requested – apologizing for what could have caused her to block me. She blocked me again. I also only sent friend requests to her friends (who had been suggested to me by FB), and many of them accepted my friend requests. I also never said anything about marriage, kids, or family.

After this message, I either saw no further attempts by Jacob to leave a comment on the blog post, or I deleted them. (I don’t remember which; the fifth message here is the last one of its kind currently in my blog moderation queue.)

In Conclusion

Tl;dr version:

  • I banned Jacob from a Facebook group for explicitly violating a stated group rule.
  • Jacob Szalapski responded by messaging at least a dozen of my Facebook friends with nonsense about me.
  • I wrote a blog post about the nonsense Jacob had spread about me.
  • Jacob never responded to me in any way regarding the content of the post itself….
  • …but he did message me five times over six months about the content of a comment left on that blog post, and
  • he attempted to circumvent my blog’s comment moderation settings at least twice in order to do so.
  • As far as I know, Jacob Szalapski has never tried to have Alexandra Marie’s comment removed from my blog by any official means (such as by contacting WordPress). If he has tried, news of those efforts have never reached me.
  • Eighteen months later, he spammed by blog’s Facebook page inbox and the page itself with copypasted comments….
  • …which include a demand that reads in a threatening manner.

Readers: You are welcome to draw your own conclusions from the evidence presented here.

Jacob: Stop.

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